Dirty Talk Dominatrix: How to Take Control

Dominating your partner with dirty talk might be much easier than you think. The key to becoming a dirty talk dominatrix lies in recognizing what your partner wants to give to you, even if they don’t put those desires into words. Many men love to be dominated, but they understand that physically, it can be [...]

Dominating your partner with dirty talk might be much easier than you think. The key to becoming a dirty talk dominatrix lies in recognizing what your partner wants to give to you, even if they don’t put those desires into words. Many men love to be dominated, but they understand that physically, it can be tough for a woman to wield power over them. However, get into a man’s psyche and you can dominate him from every angle, just with a simple word.

How do you make it happen? Start with dirty talk that gets into something he truly enjoys. For instance, does your partner truly enjoy going down on you? Tailor your dirty talk around that particular act, but give it a submissive spin. Try these phrases:

• You really get off on that, don’t you?


• You love to please me, don’t you?


• You’re such a good little cunt-sucker.


• I think you need to make me cum. Right now.


• I should handcuff you to the bed and just ride your face. Would you like that?


• Keep sucking my pussy like the naughty slut you are.


• If you don’t make me cum, I might have to punish you.


• This is what I want: Do it exactly as I say.

Putting a submissive spin on your dirty talk sets the stage for even more naughty avenues. Make it all about pleasing you, and what he can do to make that happen. If he has submissive tendencies, he will take to your dirty talk dominating like a duck to water. The more turned on he gets by your control, the more you know you can push those boundaries into truly submissive territory.

A nice dirty talk dominatrix trick is the admission – getting him to say that yes, he likes it, and yes, he wants more. If you suggest something and finish it with “you like that, don’t you?”, you are inviting him to say yes. And once he says yes, he has opened the psychological door to even more naughty things. Take it very gradually and pay close attention to his reactions. If there is something that makes him pause but doesn’t make him say no, you have just found a soft limit that he might want to pursue. But if you say something that makes him tense up and immediately turns him off, you’ve found a hard limit.

The point is not to push him until he calls you out on it. The point is to find where his limits are, and then dominate him within those. By simply leading him with your words, you might find a submissive streak in that usually dominant man, and then you’re in for a boatload of fun!